Originally written by Chrissy68 on Stripper Web 3/28/07
I was thinking at work of what helps me keep customers as regulars, or sell dances later to those who said no originally, or things that generally help me bank at work, so i thought i'd post some for you all to read/use.
*remember names. when someone says maybe later and they are a good candidate for dances in your opinion, commit his name to memory. as you leave, "ok, jim, ill be back in a bit to check on you." and when you return: "hey jim! im totally ready to get naked and play with you!" if he doesnt jump right up, mention the fact he was memorable and therefore you remembered his name. it's a subtle way of telling him that he's impressed with you. this NEVER fails.
*if someone says maybe later, they might mean that. be sure to return and remember ^.
*never sit alone looking bored. ever. it turns people off from you. if you are sitting alone, get up and walk, or go talk to a bouncer, or dj, or something, but never ever sit alone. it looks as though no one wants you.
*when the club is busy, chatting is not necessary. in fact, it's a waste. one line is all you need. i repeat over and over: "hey, im chrissy, wanna come and play with me? <sexy smile/wink/lip bite in slutty way>" or something similar. often substituted with "let's go play/im ready to rub myself on you."
*always refrain from getting annoyed at people at work. maintain the same positive outlook no.matter.what. (a girl last night fked me out of a group and i smiled and walked away. i came back to the group later to make even more than she had off of them and they appreciated the fact that i told them i left because "when something angers me i remove myself from the situation rather than saying something unnecessary." i did say something to her AFTER work. during, not worth ruining your mood over.)
*stay sober. or semi sober. do NOT get sloshed. drunk girls are NOT attractive to anyone. if you cannot refuse drinks, tell the bartender/waitress to serve you virgin drinks and charge him full price so custy is none the wiser. but i have only had 1 custy in 6 years tell me water was not ok. so i got a rum and diet sans rum.
*asking for a second song when it was paid for by someone else: "since he paid for that, can we stay for one more, since im alreayd naked on your lap?" if the answer is yes, be witty: "well good, because i really didn't want to get dressed just yet <smile>." if no: "oh, what a shame, i really didnt want to get dressed just yet. well, tips are always appreciated!" <guaranteed to get you at least $5 more>.
*when you see a large group, find one who is lookign at you, and sell him a dance. make it the best you can possibly give, and make sure he knows to tell his friends. give it 5 minutes before going back to that group, and go up to the guy talking to the one you danced for and ask him for a dance. chances are the one you danced for will practically sell it for you.
*keeping a regular: i always remember quirky things a custy and i talk about. this helps immensely. i maintained this one regular (still do) because i a. remembered his name is michael b. remember that he likes me to sing softly into his ear when i know the lyrics c. remembered that we discussed that he was travelling to ATL (where i told him to visit the (edited out) club and look for a redhead named Bridgette lol) and while he spends 1-200 each time he cmes in, his visits have gotten very frequent. he will say, "you remembered! that makes me feel really good!" to random things.
*telling a customer a very mild personal detail is a good thing, it makes them feel closer to you. (im not talking about your address or number, but more like, i had tickets to see the King Tut exhibit at the art museum, or that i coach soccer. i have a made up story of where i went to high school and know things like the team's name ie the bulldogs and where if i'd gone there i would have hung out after school)
*always always always mention VIP to each and every customer who buys a dance. if they are hemming and hawing, BARGAIN. "if you'd rather be back there, i won't charge you for this song." "no you can decide at the end of this song. it's quite the deal to get a free lap dance!" if you do this, work out a system with the bouncer in charge of the lap dance room. i used to tip the collection guy at my old club once for the entire night where i'd bargain. sometimes i still had to pay the $5 but what's a $5 hit when you get a hell of a lot more in VIP?
princessparis
I don't have a thread but I have a whole lot of quotes. Sorry but I just copied and pasted these into a personal word document and i forgot to put the names next to the quotes cause I thought I was just going to keep it for my personal use.
Next time I'll make sure to keep the names next to the quotes
* You continue getting information the whole time you're with him, which means new ways to make yourself more appealing...you really can't go on autopilot and expect to make a ton of money from a guy.
* I kind of think of it like this: Sometimes the fantasy is better than (or at least a good substitute for) sex. Suppose that you did really go home with him, took off your clothes and spread your legs? Chances are, he couldn't even get it up. And even if he could- things go so much more smoothly in fantasies than in real life. Let's face it. It's not hard for a guy to get off. He can do that himself. Your job is to inspire that "if only" fantasy. "If only" I didn't live 2000 miles away with my wife and kids- I would rock her world... (Also, he would probably have to be 10 years younger and 20 lbs slimmer, but we won't mention that. Anyway, you're not selling him an orgasm. You're selling him excitement. (Part of that excitement/fantasy is the illusion that you're attainable.) You really are selling "a good time." (But without a happy ending. That is something he can do in his own mind- over, and over, and over again.
* And keep in mind... your outward appearance can either enhance or contradict your "personality" it can be rather intriguing for a custy to meet with a Barbie Look-a-Like who has a rapier wit and a dark sense of humor. Juxtaposition isn't always a bad thing... play with it.... My two cents: approach the custy one way, then switch things up a bit. Toss in a pinch of ditz. Give him a long seductive stare. Use an SAT word. It will keep him guessing and hopefully spending.
* Also even the shy guys want to think they are 'bad boys', acting aloof is his way of trying to be cool, he doesn't want you to think he is a nerd! He wants you to think he is a bad boy, a guy you find irrisistable and he is acting disinterested to impress you.
*I cater it more towards the female than the male.
(looking at guy)..
"OMG you are so lucky to have a hot lady come to the club with you!"
(looking at girl)..
"Whats your name? I looooove your top (or perfume, hair, boobs, whatever)you are so sexy!"
(Oh nice to meet you blahblah blah)
And it goes from there! lol
Mainly they just sense comfort from you which not a lot of dancers know how to do with couples. In a club full of girls who don't approach them so friendly, you will most likely get a dance.
I say focus on the WOMAN! If the woman wants you, the guy will open his wallet. It's all about getting the woman to like you.
* I try to mimic what the custy is doing so he will feel more comfortable.
* "People are more readily persuaded by [strippers] that are similar to themselves in some way."
* Praise is one of the most powerful forms of persuasion you can use. People loved to be flattered, even when they know it's fake. Things you can praise: His intelligence His attitude His taste His looks
* The ego is probably the most important thing to a man and much of their actions are based on it. That's why it's always a good idea to make them feel like king of the jungle no matter how big of a fucking loser they are.
*Yeah, being that technical kind of kills it IMO. A lot of guys want the flirtiness and the fun, not clinical cut-and-dry stuff.
*When I asked how to respond to "What do I get back there?", I want little cutesy stripper answers, like the ones you ladies are sharing. Because we all know THE SALE DEPENDS ON EMOTION, NOT LOGIC. Customers spend because they can't resist our sexy. It makes no fiscal sense to do so, but they empty their wallets anyway. Once we bring up details before we get our money, we are dead in the water. Keep out logic at all costs. Preserve the fantasy. When a customer says, "What do I get back there?", he's really saying, "I'm interested, I want to go, Give me a reason, no matter how lame, but whatever you do, don't let me think logically."
*I think you should be sweet and in character until the point his intentions are obvious and you are ready to walk; then say something that catches him off guard. Be stern and seem offended like "This isn't a whorehouse!" A nicer guy will be a little embarrassed and apologetic and might work out. But if he's a super scumbag he will let you know he is.
* Its effective high pressure sales because you put yourself in a position where its peer pressure that counts and when you're his only peer, and you're in a dominant position, they cave.
* I use a similar version of this hustle for the men that are pussy-footing around about telling me yes or no. I just interrupt their feeble body language and hmm-ing and say, "We'll do just one. How about that? ...We'll do next song." I'd say half the time i get a yes like this. It's making up their mind, planting the idea that it's not a big decision (only one dance) and telling them when it will happen. This pairs really well with either holding out your hand for him to grab and standing up, or grabbing his hand and giving him a (very gently) tug.
*When I first sit with a guy and bring up private dances I try to do it in a way that sort of psychologically preps him for spending a lot, stuff like always referring to dances in the plural, and "spending time" together. I also notice a really good success rate to ask for another dance (as one song is ending) is when I simply say, "let's do one more" (of course whispered in his ear).
*If I don't get a volunteer I'll say something like "So since I don't have a volunteer, does that mean I get to choose?" kinda in an excited way. Then I will ponder a bit and I pay close attention to who keeps eye contact with me. Then I will say something like "well, if I get to choose, then I choose YOU! *big smile* Let's go."Another thing I say is "So guys, if I took Dave for a dance, would you guys miss him too much? No?? Well okay then. Let's go Dave!" Once I get the first guy in a group to go for a dance, I bring him back and say something like "Joe was a perfect gentleman. Can you believe that guys? I guess there is a first for everything..... so Joe, who would you recommend I dance for next? Should I dance for John or Bill? Bill... why? Well that is good enough reason for me. Let's go, Bill!" And then repeat when he comes back. When a guy suggests his friend get a dance, 99% of the time, the friend will go. It's awesome.
What I do is lean in before the song is over and asked them in my sexy voice "do you want me to stop?" and breath a little bit on the neck. 9 times out of 10 they tell me to keep going. One guy last night bought 15 dances from me back to back, and other 5 more dances about 10 minutes later.
I've lately been trying to get them to where "no" means don't stop. b/c they're programmed to not spend alot, and that no means no more. this way it's in their not spending too much comfort zone, but they're still spending
like this:
"do you want me to stop?"
"do you want this to end?"
"do you need a break?"
* Buying a woman a drink is an important part of social intercourse for some men. It's how they demonstrate that they're interested, and your acceptance of the drink indicates that you're interested too. You can just get a diet coke or whatever if you don't want the booze, but it's a social ritual that does carry a lot of meaning. Saying that you don't want the drink and you'd rather just have the money is exactly the same as saying, "No, I don't like you and I don't give a shit about you at all, I just want your money so I can move on to the next guy." OF COURSE that's how we really feel, but we're selling a fantasy here. I do best when I accept the drink, spend a song or two chatting over the drink, and then go in for the dance kill. The song or two that you spend drinking together (even if it's non-alcoholic) bonds you socially and makes him more likely to want a dance from you.
Started by RedHotHoney 09/24/08
Here are a few articles I snagged from different websites, some of it may be very helpful when you sit down with a potential regular. Hope that you learn something new & helpful.
5 things men love to hear on a date...
"Then what happened?"
This question would surely make him feel that you are listening to each and every word that he has been talking since the past couple of minutes. Changing the topic, interrupting him or even looking at your nails will make him feel like an idiot talking nonsense. Even if you say "Uh huh" will give him and instant clue about you losing interest in the conversation. But instead, actively bounce comments like, "You're kidding! What happened next?" or "Go on..." That way, he'll know you're indisputably interested versus just being gracious.
"That's pretty impressive."
Make him feel like a king. If he is mentioning something like a job promotion or a way to fix his air-conditioner by date, that is definitely something you should not ignore. Rather compliment him for what he has achieved. The key is to feed his ego by cherishing his achievements.
"Thank you."
This word won't make you smaller in the eyes of your man. But this is just another way to approach his heart. Thank him when he compliments you on the way you look, thank him when he pays the bill; thank him when he drives you back home. Although, don't use the word unnecessarily, but manners do matter. In the most informal dating scene today, this will make you look a lot sensible and appreciative.
"What do you do when you're not at work?"
Guys are not the multitasking types. They surely give first preference to their work. But you might get to know some more information about the man once you pop this question. You may even find some new and innovative ideas to spend time with him after work. You may even learn about certain similarities between you and him.
"I'd like to get your outlook on something."
Rather than asking for an opinion on shopping, knitting and shoes, try taking his opinion on how to handle a tricky colleague at work or rather if you wish to buy any new gadget like a digital camera or a laptop. Everybody loves to feel useful and he will definitely be of some great help.
How to Catch Men's Interest
Step1 Enter a room with confidence. Attract interest from men the moment you step into a room. Consider your entrance into a room, the one and only opportunity you will have to introduce yourself to the people you will find inside. Enter with a smile and invite the room into your private space.
Step2 Invite interest by moving with a sense of purpose and grace. Connect with your environment by showing interest in the moment. Make observing the moment your purpose and take to seeing all that is before you.
Step 3 Speak clearly and passionately about what you love. Show your enthusiasm for what you embrace and enjoy in your life to invite curiousity and interest in who you are as a person. Speak openly, honestly and robustly to attract and sustain a man's attention.
Step 4 Dress to impress. Use your sense of fashion to attract men's attention. Wear clothes that flatter your shape and compliment your best physical features.
Step 5 Use your eyes. Embolden your eyes with a sparkle. Live a rich life that creates a fire inside your spirit. Be present, remember to "show up" in your life and most of all, be your own cheering section. Men love women who are joyous, present and satisfied.
Get your confidence up. This can mean doing things such as getting a new haircut, new clothes, losing weight, or just reminding yourself of your great qualities. You need to make the man like you before you can make a move.
Use a seductive tone of voice. Not too nasal, not too high -- throaty and soft is most appealing.
Wear clothing that is fashionable and shows almost everything but not too much. But don't overdo the skin thing. DO NOT BE VERY TOUCHY-FEELY! It may seduce them at first but in the long run, who wants to be with the girl who has been touched by everybody else?
Learn to dance. Dancing is one of the most seductive things a girl can do. Learn different styles and tecniques of dancing.
Learn to walk like a model: strong, confident, with a good swagger and with excellent posture.
Wait until you can tell he is interested. The signs may not be obvious, but sometimes you have to go out on a limb; remember, most men find attention from women quite flattering.
Be flirty with your target. Let him know that you're interested, possibly by glancing or winking at him. When you talk to him, lean in and show some cleavage--even if you don't have much. The point is to show that you're happy with your body and you don't mind that he gets a preview.
Hint at your target's weak points. If he works too much, suggest that he is missing out on a lot of fun. If he is a party animal, suggest that he will never get a girl unless he makes money.
Ignore him for a little while. Give him the space and time to forget about the things that may have turned him off and fantasize about the good things. Never reveal too much of yourself because you almost certainly will turn him off. Another idea is to cancel plans you made with him and give a sincere, heartfelt apology.
Touch him, perhaps on the hand or wrist. This will subtly demonstrate that you are interested.
Offer him a massage to help break down physical barriers or say that you are sleepy and put your head on his shoulder. If he is shy, back off or leave the room for a while to let him get over his shyness and fantasize about where it could have gone from there.
Get in close. Talk to him, and let him know you like him. Guys like to hear that they are wanted just as much as girls do. If he has a slim or medium build, say how strong he is. If he is not so smart, tell him how smart he is (at the right time). Say that it feels good when he holds you. Also, just listen to him.
Make eye contact with your target. The eyes are said to be windows to the soul, and you want to make sure he knows you're trying to get inside his soul. When you are locked in a loving glance, talk about small stuff like the weather, the movie you just saw, or dinner and use short simple words. Talk only about the present moment.
Be a little mysterious. Try simple makeup, a scarf, shades, ...
It's up to you whether to take it to the next level or not. If he thinks of you as a conquest, tell him that and leave. He will fall in love with you eventually. If you feel he genuinely adores you, take it all the way.
TipsMost of the advice in the following column is not for making a guy fall in love with you, it's for making a guy fall in lust with you.
Seduction works on the brain. It's the art of making a guy fall in love with you against his will. If he is attracted to you at first, that doesn't count as a seduction and you need more practice.
A successful seduction does not necessarily end in the bedroom. If work, a girlfriend, a wife or family get in the way, a love affair can be maintained beneath the radar and without much contact. A faithful boyfriend or husband may need to ignore you to resist the temptation you present.
Wear clothing which makes you feel and look sexy. Enhance your cleavage with a well-fitting bra, learn to put on makeup in the way that is most suitable to your features.
Always pay a good deal less attention to your target than he pays to you. For every three times you feel him glance at you, glance at him once. If he has not noticed you, do not visibly notice him. However, when your eyes meet, do not be the first to look away. This will give you seductive power.
Don't be afraid to point out your target's weaknesses, ignore your target, or cancel a date IF your target is definitely interested in you. This will augment the interest to intrigue.
When you sit, cross your legs and never rest your back on the seat.
Balance out your masculine features with feminine ones. Your overall look should be 50-100% feminine. If you have small breasts and less curves or if you are not so pretty, wear a thin dress that shows lots of skin, wear makeup, and wear your hair long (e.g. Maria Sharapova). If you naturally look pretty and feminine, you have the option of cutting your hair short, wearing denim, or going out with less makeup (e.g. Halle Berry). Also make sure your personality is 50-100% feminine.
Wear a light attractive scent. This means layering scents. Bathe in scented bath oils first. Then apply a light powder in the same scent. Finally spray the same scented perfume in front of you and walk into the mist. Do this about 45 minutes before you see him. If you overpower him with your scent, instead of wanting to edge a bit closer he will be running for the nearest exit.
Candlelight and music set the scene for seduction. Soft lighting minimizes lines and wrinkles and gives your skin a bit of a glow. Keep candles handy or lamps that have adjustable lighting. In soft lighting you can be his dream woman and you can feel better about undressing in front of him.
Don't agree with everything he says. Have a mind of your own and comment back. It is good to have a different point of view when you converse.
Try different perfumes to find out what men like.
Find things you have in common with him. If he is having troubles in his life, sympathize with him.
The most important thing is to promise your target whatever it is that they are missing. If they have a hot, willing girlfriend, all the cleavage in the world won't help, but chances are she is neglecting him in other areas - maybe she doesn't listen or take care of him (we all know the surest way to a man's heart is his stomach, right?), so you need to offer whatever your competition cannot. Make him feel like a King, like someone important (but never let him walk all over you) and he will always come back for more. This is how you keep your man, too.
Even though it may seem sexist, men love to see a woman with a nice body (nice breasts, curves, buttocks). Show off your body, make him crave it, but be careful. Men often feel guilty if they're attracted or dating a woman just for her body. If you have a nice, sexy body, also show that you are a smart, interesting woman who can perhaps be passionate about something artistic (painting, music, literature). If your body isn't a strong characteristic for you, try wearing clothes that make you seem sexier, more attractive. The for mentioned artistic qualities could also help strengthen your image in this situation.
There is the seductive "look" you can get in your eye. Practice in front of the mirror. If you catch his gaze, hold it for a second, slowly go and look at his/her lips, then slowly go to one eye, and then the other.